Beliefs are beliefs, some support you and others, support support just you and some support neither. The thing is kindness is a belief, but tough kindness is also a belief. One lesson I learnt quiet ealry is that if you want to give tough love two things have to be in place. 1. You need to have the relationship, 2. You have to make sure you can show people how they can change whatever it is that isn’t right other wise they’ll simply regard you as an idiot.