Sometimes just listening is all you can do. To try to give advice is always a challenging thing. People are usually stuck in their issue and, more than anything, they need to vent it, articulate it, work it out. So hold fire, bite your tongue, remove your bias and just listen. Usually once the venting is done the cloud may have lifted and they can then see the issuer from a new perspective
I like to hold hands at the movies… which always seems to startle strangers.
I learnt yesterday that in order for someone to be trusted, people need to feel safe in their company. Do people feel safe and supported when you’re with them. If they do, you could be rewarded with their trust.
Be nice to your kids. They’ll choose your nursing home.