kindness, another dilemma, secret acts of kindness may be the key.

Kindness is a good thing. Or is it? The act of kindness can create a bond between two people and the acts themselves can create expectations and attachment. Expectations that may not be able to be fulfilled. I once new a guy who was the best facilitator in learning that I’d ever met. People loved him. Made friends with him on FaceBook. But he could never live up to all their demands of wanting to be part of his life. He let people down and eventually took himself off Facebook. A victim of his own popularity. But the issue isn’t always to that degree of popularity, what if your kindness causes an attachment from someone who is vulnerable and the desire for attention becomes too needy. Oops! Secret acts of kindness don’t play to your ego, but can have the same effect